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Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults. Commonly consisting of male female couples meeting other male female couples for casual sex and or ongoing intimate friendships. Swinging implies that all parties involved are okay with the sexual actitity of their life mates or current partners.
Many couples find the thought of having sex with other people to be very arousing. In the past, the swinging community has been somewhat unaware of or confused by alternative sexual practices such as BDSM or Tantra. This appears to be changing.

What Type Of People Swing?:
People who are active in the swinging lifestyle are just like you or me.  The majority of swingers are couples with many single women also involved.  Although swingers come from all sorts of walks of life and are of all different races. The majority are white married couples living a middle to upper middle socioeconomic lifestyle.  They tend to be adventurous and mature, and usually have great relationships with their mates and friends.  Considering how much healthy communication swinging requires, it makes a great deal of sense that swingers have great relationships.

There was a study done in 1979 by McGinley which focused on swinging couples.  McGinley found that couples involved in the swinging lifestyle reported increased enjoyment and satisfaction in their relationships.  Furthermore, he found that the people involved also believed that they had gained a better understanding of both themselves and their mates.  Something that is associated with enjoyment, satisfaction, and deepened understanding seems very healthy and normal.  The most likely reason for these healthy consequences of swinging is probably due, not only to improved communication skills, although that definitely contributes, but also to the lifestyle allowing the couples involved to fully explore their sexual and social desires.  This allows sex to become significantly less taboo and when sex is no longer taboo, the persons involved feel much more empowered in their relationships.  They can then abandon the other taboos that restrain couples in relationships, such as polyamory phobia, duty, sex roles, and judging other’s morals.

And why would a single woman want to become involved in the swinging lifestyle?  Although feminism has allowed women to become much more empowered in our society, and this has affected women’s sex lives as well, many women still find themselves restrained by vanilla sex lifestyles.  In the swinging lifestyle women who are sexually in control are not only respected but revered.  At most swing parties it is expected that the women will be the more assertive individuals.  For single women swinging with men, both individuals has the opportunity to try on various sex roles instead of just the standard vanilla roles in which the man is dominant and the woman is submissive.  Swinging also allows bi-curious women the chance to have sexual encounters with other women without having to become a member of the lesbian community.

Finally, it is important to discuss the difference between swinging for sport and swinging as a lifestyle choice.  It is true that there are some individuals who only swing occasionally to add a little spice to their sex life.  There is nothing wrong with this except that it is not true for the majority of swingers and gives many people the wrong impression.  For the majority of swingers, swinging is an integral part of their lifestyle in that the people involved socialize with, develop friendships with, network with, and depend on other swingers to meet a great deal their emotional, social, support, and sexual needs.  In many ways swingers are in the same position now that gays and lesbians were not too long ago.  People confuse their orientation and lifestyle for just being a sexual practice.  This is not true for gays and lesbians and it isn’t true for the majority of swingers either.  Sadly, most swingers are forced out of fear to be closeted just as many gays and lesbians still are today.  The truth is that your neighbor, your daughter, your boss, or even you or I could be a swinger, and therefore it is harmful to society as a whole that there are so many misconceptions about and discrimination against swingers.  It is the hope of the swinger movement on the national level that the swinging lifestyle can soon have the sociopolitical success that the gay and lesbian community is just starting to have and that there will come a time not long from now when swingers will not need to be closeted but can stand together proud and safe.